The Invitations of Mary Series
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Mary had known him before anyone had an opinion about him. Then, suddenly, everyone did.

It may have happened at the market.

That seems almost cruelly ordinary.

Mary was buying grain.

Or oil.

Or thread.

Something completely unremarkable.

She was standing beside another woman, examining something, perhaps already thinking the price was unreasonable, when she heard a man’s voice somewhere behind her.

“Have you heard about the teacher from Nazareth?”

Mary stopped.

Not visibly.

Just enough.

Another voice answered.

“Which teacher?”

“The one everyone’s talking about.”

Mary continued what she was doing.

Or tried to.

“Jesus.”

There it was.

Her son’s name.

Spoken by someone who did not know her.

That must have been strange.

For nearly thirty years, Jesus had been a private name.

Not secret.

Just ordinary.

A name Mary called through the house.

“Jesus, come eat.”

“Jesus, where did you put—”

“Jesus, your father is looking for you.”

“Jesus.”

A name attached to scraped knees.

Fever.

Laughter.

Work.

Meals.

Sleep.

A boy.

A man.

Her son.

Now a stranger was saying it.

And Mary had absolutely no control over what came next.

“He’s extraordinary.”

Maybe that was the first thing she heard.

That would have been nice.

Mary’s hands might have resumed moving.

“They say he teaches with authority.”

Mary listened.

Pretending not to.

“He healed a man.”

Another voice:

“I heard it was two men.”

“No, my cousin was there. One.”

“My brother says there were several.”

Mary almost smiled.

There it was.

The beginning of the problem.

Jesus had been publicly active for approximately five minutes and already nobody could agree about what happened.

Perhaps Mary turned slightly.

Not enough to announce herself.

Just enough to hear better.

“He’s from Nazareth?”

“Yes.”

“Nothing comes from Nazareth.”

Mary’s head turned.

Excuse me?

Maybe that was Mary’s first introduction to hearing strangers insult not only her son but apparently her entire village.

She looked at the speaker.

The man continued talking, completely unaware that the mother of the person he was dismissing was standing ten feet away holding onions.

Perhaps Mary considered introducing herself.

She did not.

Growth.

Another person said:

“I heard him myself.”

The conversation changed.

Mary listened.

“He speaks differently.”

“How?”

The man struggled.

“I don’t know.”

Mary understood that.

“He talks about God like—”

Pause.

“Like he knows Him.”

Mary’s hand stopped.

That sentence might have followed her home.

Because Mary had spent thirty years trying to understand exactly that.

Who are you?

She had asked it without asking.

Newborn against her chest.

Toddler laughing.

Twelve-year-old in the Temple.

Young man beside Joseph.

Who are you?

She knew the answer.

And she didn’t.

Both had always been true.

Now strangers were beginning to encounter the question too.

Maybe Mary walked home thinking:

Yes.

He does speak like that.

But perhaps the next conversation wasn’t so pleasant.

Because once Jesus became known, Mary would not hear only admiration.

She would hear opinions.

So many opinions.

“He’s wonderful.”

“He’s dangerous.”

“He’s a prophet.”

“He’s mad.”

“He healed someone.”

“He broke the Sabbath.”

“He speaks with authority.”

“Who gave him authority?”

“He’s from God.”

“He’s deceiving people.”

Mary had known this man since before he had lungs.

And people who had listened to him for twenty minutes now had conclusions.

That must have been infuriating.

Perhaps one afternoon someone came directly to her.

Not maliciously.

That might have been worse.

“Mary.”

She looked up.

“I heard something about Jesus.”

There is no sentence a mother enjoys less.

“What?”

“They say he caused trouble at the synagogue.”

Mary’s stomach dropped.

“What kind of trouble?”

“I don’t know.”

“Then why are you telling me?”

The woman blinked.

Mary immediately regretted the sharpness.

But really.

“I thought you would want to know.”

Mary sighed.

“I do.”

Pause.

“Just preferably the part where you actually know what happened.”

Fair.

That may have become one of the strangest realities of Jesus’ ministry.

Mary increasingly learned about her son’s life secondhand.

From people who had seen him.

People who knew someone who had seen him.

People whose cousin’s husband’s brother had apparently been standing nearby.

Everyone had information.

Not all of it was useful.

Maybe Mary developed a system.

“Did you see it?”

“No, but—”

Mary stopped listening.

“Were you there?”

“My cousin—”

No.

“Did Jesus tell you?”

“Well, no.”

Wonderful.

Joseph would have appreciated this system.

But sometimes the stories came from eyewitnesses.

Those were different.

Maybe a woman Mary had never met came looking for her.

“You’re his mother?”

Mary hesitated.

“Yes.”

The woman smiled.

Not the smile of someone meeting someone important.

The smile of someone carrying gratitude too large for her body.

“He helped my daughter.”

Mary went still.

Maybe the woman told her what happened.

We don’t need to invent which healing.

There were enough.

Perhaps Mary listened as someone described Jesus kneeling beside a sick person.

Touching someone others would not touch.

Speaking gently.

Not being afraid.

Mary knew those hands.

She had washed those hands when they were tiny.

Held them crossing roads.

Bandaged them when carpentry injured them.

Watched Joseph teach them to use tools.

Now strangers were telling her what those hands had done for them.

How could she possibly answer that?

“I’m glad.”

Too small.

“Thank God.”

True.

Maybe she simply held the woman’s hands.

“Thank you,” the stranger said.

Mary’s throat tightened.

“For what?”

“For him.”

Oh.

Perhaps Mary had no answer.

Because what does a mother do when someone thanks her for her adult child?

She had raised him.

Yes.

Fed him.

Protected him.

Taught him.

Loved him.

But whatever Jesus was doing now—

that belonged to Jesus.

Maybe Mary said:

“You should tell him.”

The woman smiled.

“I did.”

Good.

After she left, perhaps Mary sat alone for a while.

Proud.

Surely Mary was allowed to be proud.

Not theological pride.

Maternal pride.

The profoundly ordinary feeling:

That’s my son.

Maybe she wanted Joseph so badly in moments like that.

Not because she needed comfort.

Because she needed someone who understood what it meant.

Someone came here today because of him.

Joseph, you should have heard her.

They say he’s helping people.

They say—

Perhaps Mary smiled.

“You knew he would.”

Then:

“No. You didn’t.”

Because let’s be fair to Joseph.

An angel gave him some information.

Nobody gave the man a detailed ministry itinerary.

Maybe Mary imagined Joseph hearing the reports.

“Crowds?”

“Yes.”

“How many?”

“Thousands, apparently.”

Joseph would stare.

“Our Jesus?”

“Yes.”

“The one who used to—”

“Yes, that one.”

Mary laughed.

Alone in the house.

But fame changes something.

Even when fame is good.

Especially when it is someone you love.

Suddenly other people feel entitled to them.

People discussed Jesus while Mary was standing there.

They debated his motives.

His character.

His words.

His family.

His origins.

His sanity.

His theology.

His behavior.

His companions.

His decisions.

Perhaps someone said:

“He spends time with sinners.”

Mary looked up.

Another:

“He eats with tax collectors.”

Someone else:

“You know the kind of women who follow him?”

That might have done it.

Mary turned.

“What kind?”

The speaker looked at her.

Mary’s expression made the question considerably less rhetorical.

Maybe Mary was not always silent.

Let’s allow her that.

“What kind of women?”

The person stumbled.

“You know.”

“No.”

Mary waited.

“Explain.”

Suddenly nobody wanted to.

Interesting.

Mary returned to what she was doing.

She had spent enough of her life being talked about.

Perhaps she recognized the machinery.

The look.

The lowered voice.

The certainty built from fragments.

Thirty years earlier, people may have had opinions about a young woman whose pregnancy was difficult to explain.

Mary knew what rumor could do.

Now rumor had found Jesus.

Maybe that frightened her more than criticism itself.

Because she knew truth does not necessarily protect a person from what people decide to believe.

And Jesus was saying difficult things.

We shouldn’t soften that.

He challenged people.

He provoked.

He interpreted Scripture with astonishing authority.

He crossed social boundaries.

He disrupted expectations.

Not every uncomfortable report about him could be dismissed as gossip.

Sometimes Mary might hear what Jesus had actually said and think:

You said WHAT?

Perhaps someone repeated one of his harsher teachings.

Mary stared.

“He said that?”

“Yes.”

“Exactly?”

“Well—”

“Exactly?”

“I think so.”

Mary sighed.

Again.

But perhaps eventually she heard something unmistakably Jesus.

A phrase.

A way of answering.

A particular turn of thought.

And she thought:

Yes. That’s him.

Maybe that was comforting.

The public Jesus was not a stranger.

He was still the man she knew.

Magnified somehow.

Revealed.

But recognizable.

Perhaps she heard someone describe his compassion.

Recognizable.

His patience with someone everyone else found irritating.

Recognizable.

His refusal to humiliate someone vulnerable.

Recognizable.

His anger at hypocrisy.

Very recognizable.

His habit of answering a question with another question.

Mary closed her eyes.

Extremely recognizable.

Apparently everyone else was now discovering this particular joy.

Good luck to them.

Maybe someone complained:

“I asked him a simple question.”

Mary waited.

“And?”

“He asked me something completely different.”

Mary tried not to smile.

“Yes.”

The man looked suspicious.

“You know what I mean?”

“Oh, yes.”

That might have been one of the small pleasures.

Watching the world discover things Mary had known for years.

But then came danger.

Not all at once.

A shift.

The stories changed.

At first:

Crowds.

Healings.

Teaching.

Wonder.

Then:

Arguments.

Authorities.

Questions.

Accusations.

Maybe Mary noticed before anyone told her explicitly.

People began lowering their voices when they said Jesus’ name.

That would have frightened her.

“What happened?”

“Nothing.”

“Something happened.”

“They’re watching him.”

Who?

Mary already knew the answer would not be good.

Perhaps someone said:

“He should be more careful.”

Mary’s stomach tightened.

Because mothers have been hearing that sentence about their adult children since humanity began.

She wanted to say:

Tell him.

Please.

Go find him and tell him to be careful.

Because he certainly isn’t here for me to do it.

But Mary knew.

Jesus wasn’t careless.

That was worse.

If he was doing dangerous things knowingly, then telling him they were dangerous would change nothing.

Maybe she began listening differently.

At first, strangers talking about Jesus had been fascinating.

Then amusing.

Then moving.

Eventually—

information became surveillance.

Mary needed to know where he was.

Who was angry.

What had happened.

Whether he was safe.

She probably hated herself for listening to gossip.

Still listened.

A mother can have principles tomorrow.

Today somebody mentioned her son.

Maybe she became skilled at appearing uninterested.

Hands working.

Eyes down.

Every nerve listening.

“They tried to—”

Mary’s hands stopped.

“What?”

The speakers looked over.

Too late.

Perhaps eventually people knew who she was.

That changed everything again.

Now conversations stopped when Mary approached.

Wonderful.

Much worse.

Two people talking.

Mary enters.

Silence.

Mary looks at them.

“Continue.”

“No, we were finished.”

“You were not.”

“We were.”

Mary waits.

They leave.

Excellent.

Now she knows absolutely nothing.

Maybe Mary discovered that being Jesus’ mother meant people sometimes expected her to explain him.

“Why does he—”

“I don’t know.”

“But you’re his mother.”

“Yes.”

“So surely—”

“No.”

That answer matters.

Mary did not understand everything Jesus did.

Scripture explicitly preserves that fact.

At twelve, she and Joseph did not understand his answer.

Later, the relationship between Jesus and his family during the ministry becomes complicated enough that we should resist pretending Mary spent those years possessing a private theological commentary track.

She had faith.

She had memory.

She had promises.

She did not have omniscience.

Perhaps someone asked:

“Who does he think he is?”

And Mary thought:

I have been working on that question for thirty years.

Maybe she answered:

“You should ask him.”

And perhaps that became her boundary.

People wanted Mary to interpret Jesus.

Defend Jesus.

Explain Jesus.

Control Jesus.

Pass messages to Jesus.

Persuade Jesus.

Tell Jesus.

Mary had to learn something difficult:

Jesus was not hers to manage anymore.

That may have been one of the final transformations of motherhood.

When your child is little, other people’s opinions about them become your responsibility.

Your child hits someone?

You intervene.

Your child is rude?

You correct them.

Your child causes a problem?

Someone comes to you.

Then the child becomes an adult.

And one day someone complains about something they said.

You realize:

Why are you telling me?

Go talk to him.

Maybe Mary actually said it.

“Tell Jesus.”

The person blinked.

“I thought you might—”

“No.”

A small revolution.

But praise was complicated too.

People might have treated Mary differently because of him.

“You raised him.”

Yes.

But Mary knew the limits of that claim.

She had taught Jesus how to eat.

How to dress.

How to navigate human community.

Perhaps prayers.

Scripture.

Custom.

Kindness.

Responsibility.

Joseph taught him a trade.

They gave him a home.

But Mary did not manufacture whatever people encountered when Jesus began teaching.

Maybe someone praised her excessively.

“You must be extraordinary to have raised a man like that.”

Mary laughed.

“No.”

The person thought she was being humble.

She wasn’t.

She remembered toddler Jesus overtired.

Twelve-year-old Jesus missing for three days.

Young Jesus leaving tools somewhere they did not belong.

Thirty years of ordinary humanity.

Mary had done what mothers do.

Loved.

Failed sometimes.

Tried again.

Fed.

Protected.

Taught.

Released.

The rest belonged to God.

And perhaps occasionally she overheard something beautiful.

Not miraculous.

Not spectacular.

Just someone saying:

“He listened to me.”

That might have affected her most.

“He actually listened.”

Mary looked toward the speaker.

A man perhaps nobody usually listened to.

Or a woman people dismissed.

Someone poor.

Someone sick.

Someone socially inconvenient.

“He looked at me like I mattered.”

Mary’s eyes filled.

Because she knew that look.

Jesus had looked at her that way.

Not because she was his mother.

Because that was how he looked at people.

Maybe Mary went home after hearing that and cried.

Not from fear.

From recognition.

There you are.

The world was meeting him.

Her Jesus.

And slowly she was learning something strange:

People would know pieces of her son she did not.

A sick woman would know what his hand felt like when he lifted her.

A disciple would know what Jesus sounded like teaching beside a lake at dawn.

A child would know how he smiled when interrupted.

A tax collector would know what it felt like when Jesus chose his table.

A grieving sister would know how Jesus wept beside her brother’s tomb.

Mary could not possess every version of him.

No mother can.

Other people would build relationships with Jesus that did not pass through her.

That might have been humbling.

And beautiful.

Perhaps that was when Mary began understanding another part of letting go.

Raising Jesus had meant gradually surrendering him to his own life.

His ministry required something larger:

surrendering him to other people.

They would love him.

Misunderstand him.

Need him.

Follow him.

Leave him.

Praise him.

Use him.

Argue with him.

Touch him.

Interrupt him.

Demand things from him.

Eventually—

hate him.

Mary could not stand between Jesus and any of it.

Maybe she wanted to.

Sometimes.

Surely.

Perhaps one day she heard strangers talking again.

She was older now than on that first market morning.

More accustomed to it.

Two travelers nearby.

“Have you heard of Jesus of Nazareth?”

Mary kept working.

The other answered:

“Yes.”

“What do you think of him?”

Mary’s hands slowed.

There it was.

The question the whole world was beginning to answer.

Prophet.

Teacher.

Healer.

Blasphemer.

Messiah.

Madman.

Son of David.

Carpenter.

Troublemaker.

Lord.

Mary knew dozens of answers.

She also knew one none of them did.

She knew what his hair looked like after sleep.

She knew the sound of his newborn cry.

She knew which foods he had disliked as a child.

She knew how his face changed just before laughter.

She knew what his fevered forehead felt like beneath her palm.

She knew the weight of him asleep against her.

She knew the adolescent version of his voice.

She knew his footsteps approaching the house.

She knew how Joseph looked at him.

She knew the man who had turned back once on the road outside Nazareth and raised his hand toward her.

The stranger answered.

“I think he’s extraordinary.”

Mary smiled.

Just slightly.

Kept working.

Perhaps another day the answer was:

“I think he’s dangerous.”

Mary didn’t smile.

Still kept working.

Because both men were talking about Jesus.

But neither knew her Jesus.

Not completely.

And Mary was beginning to understand that she didn’t completely know theirs either.

That might have been one of the strangest gifts of those years.

Mary began meeting her own son through other people’s eyes.

The teacher.

The healer.

The rabbi.

The controversial figure drawing crowds across Galilee.

The man people crossed villages to find.

Sometimes she recognized him immediately.

Sometimes she thought:

That doesn’t sound like him at all.

Sometimes:

Oh, Jesus. What have you done now?

And sometimes—

she heard a stranger describe something her son had done and discovered something about him she had never seen herself.

Imagine that.

The woman who knew Jesus first—

still learning him.

Maybe that is why Mary could keep pondering.

Because motherhood had never given her ownership of the mystery.

Only proximity to it.

She had carried him.

Raised him.

Loved him.

Released him.

And now she stood among strangers hearing his name move through the world.

Jesus.

No longer only the name called through a little house in Nazareth.

Now carried down roads.

Across markets.

Into synagogues.

Around dinner tables.

From village to village.

Spoken by people Mary would never meet.

Perhaps sometimes she wanted the name back.

Just for an evening.

Before everyone had an opinion.

Before crowds.

Before controversy.

Before danger.

When Jesus was simply at the table and she could say:

“Jesus.”

And he would look up.

“What?”

Nothing.

Just checking.

But those years were over.

The name belonged to the world now.

One afternoon, perhaps Mary heard children running through Nazareth.

One shouted to another:

“Jesus of Nazareth!”

Something about a story they’d heard.

Mary stopped.

Listened.

Then smiled.

How strange.

Once she had been the person teaching Jesus the stories of Israel.

Now stories about Jesus were traveling without her.

She returned to her work.

The children ran on.

His name disappeared down the street.

And perhaps Mary understood:

This was what she had released him for.

Not fame.

Not admiration.

Not even understanding.

For this.

For lives beyond hers.

For people she would never know.

Still—

if someone nearby said something particularly ridiculous about him—

Mary was absolutely listening.

She might have been the Mother of Jesus.

She was also his mother.

And some things even grace does not change.